I've said this many times particularly at work functions. I stand around in groups of wonderfully intellegent, creative and interesting people, amongst designer shoes or bags at some wonderful Sydney locations and you know what we're all doing, thumbing our phones. Yep, our obsession social media has made us all terribly anti-social, and it's becoming so normal that not punctuating coversations with Instagram posts doesn't cause even an eyelid bat.
The place I have become even more aware of this social media obsession is at the park. When I'm working hard for the money at a sunny park somewhere with my daughter I look around me and more often than not you see mum after mum after mum swiping their mornings away on their phones. And while they're scrolling through pics of Casey from school's latest overseas jaunt (how the hell does this afford all this friggin' holidays?) their small little spawn are being hilarious talking to pigeons or displaying some incredible feat of acrobatics on the play equiptment, and not even before their eyes, it's all happening behind their iPhones.
But me? Oh gosh, don't think I'm immune. There are many times I find myself with a quiet moment and the first thing I go to do is check my phone. And I stop myself. We're all rushing to fill in our time, and in the process we're becoming hopeless at being alone. And still. And thoughtful. And silent. We're all too busy uploading the beautiful view that's in front of us that we're not enoying it. Our whole lives are seen through the lens of a phone, and this spoken word film, Look Up has nailed all of these points, and then some so perfectly on the head it hurts.
I know I'm getting strangely deep, which really isn't my style, but this is hugely important, and has become more so in my mind now that I am a mother. I have always loved being alone. Not lonely, but alone. I could walk around all day earth under my feet and having no intended destination, a trait I hope to pass onto my daughter. Whenever I go to reach for my phone when I could be just enjoy a moment of nothingness the words to Fiona Apple's Waltz (Better Than Fine) pop into my noggin'.
If you don't have a date
Go out and sit on the lawn
And do nothing
'Cause it's just what you must do
Nobody does it anymore
No I don't believe in the wasting of time,
But I don't believe that I'm wasting mine
If you don't have a point to make
Don't sweat it
You'll make a sharp one being so kind
And I'd sure appreciate it
Everyone else's goal's to get big headed
Why should I follow that beat being that I'm
Better than fine
So next time you find yourself with a moment to do nothing, do just that. Look up, look around and drink in life without a black border. You don't need to a share an experience to validate it. My favourite thing to do because I'm a Grade A weirdo? Make up the life stories of people around you. Most of them have a secret life in the Porn industry. Trust me.